How to Deal with Jealousy in a Relationship

8. Don't Make Comparisons

You would never compare your partner to someone else in a negative light so why do it to yourself? There will always be someone better looking, stronger, smarter, faster, younger, richer or more talented than you but that does not discredit anything you have to offer the world. Our differences are what make us special and your partner is with you because they know just how special you really are.

9. Don't Make Demands

Sometimes this feeling can get the best of us and we say things that will only make it worse. It’s important to be open and honest with your partner but remember to do so in love and with patience. If your partner has been spending time with someone you’re not comfortable with, don’t demand that they end communication with the person. Work out respectful ways that will ease your fears and keep everyone happy.

10. Understand the Consequences

There are consequences to jealousy in a relationship. Often times, it results in a lack of trust. Jealousy can damage a relationship beyond repair if you are not careful so make sure you’re not risking your relationship just because of your own doubts.

11. Get Help to Let it Go

You are not going to help your relationship any by letting this become an issue. It will not be easy to let go of these feelings, especially if they’ve been caused by problems in past relationships, but you must. Get the help of a friend or loved one to talk through your insecurities and learn when to let it go.

12. See How They Feel

Your partner may be just as jealous of the way you are around other people. Talk to them and ask them if they are comfortable with everyone you choose to spend time with. Compromise and talk through the insecurities you both may be feeling. The result will be a healthier, happier relationship.

13. Don't Spy or Snoop

Most couples willingly share most things, but you both still need to respect each other’s space. Don’t ever go through your partners things without their permission. They deserve your trust so if you find yourself wanting to snoop, you need to reevaluate why.

14. Get Professional Help

If jealousy is becoming a serious issue in your relationship, you owe it to your partner and yourself to do something about it. Try to attend couples therapy if your partner is willing to. If not as a couple, at least try to see a therapist yourself so you can work through whatever it is that is preventing you from having a healthy relationship.